Month: December 2009

Biblical Parenting

This is a summary of Tedd Tripp’s wisdom on how to be gospel-centered in disciplining your children:

1. Do it alone in private.
2. Tell your children specifically what they did not obey.
3. Get an acknowledgment from them {you may be wrong!}.
4. Remind them of the objective: restoration to the circle of blessing from the area of danger.
5. Tell them how many swats they are to receive.
6. No spanking should be absorbed by pants. It needs to connect.
7. Hold them afterwards and tell them you love them.
8. Pray with and for them.

You can listen to all 5 sermons by Tedd Tripp from the Biblical Parenting Conference held at Mars Hill Church in 2008.

While we’re at it, Chris Brauns has some great advice for parents:

Below are two messages that parents of young children should memorize.

The Bible instructs parents to love their children. But, the Bible does not define love as squishy sentimentalism that gives children whatever they want whenever they ask for it.

In fact, Scripture says, “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” (Pr 13:24) Parents who truly love their children consistently discipline them.

As the parent of four children, I do not enjoy disciplining my children. But, one sentence I learned early on is very helpful. In the context of discipline I have learned to say and think:

Message #1: I love you too much to teach you that you can make bad choices without any consequences. As someone has said, “Choose to sin, choose to suffer.” Don’t be deceived God cannot be mocked. You reap what you sow. (Galatians 6:7-8).

Or, when my children are upset with me because they think I am too protective, I say and think this:

Message #2: All your life, I have been willing to die for you. I can honestly tell you that it came down to your life or my life, I would give up mine on your behalf. So, if I am willing to die for you, then having you upset with me because I am protecting you is a relatively small thing in my world. If protecting you, means you being mad at me, then so be it.”

Parents, if you are unwilling to discipline your children then you are being unloving to them.

“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” (Pr 13:24)