Month: November 2015

Like Father, Like Son- Pete Alwinson

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I did not sleep at all last night. Not a wink. One of our kids was sick so I spent my sleeping hours repeatedly cleaning up vomit and scrubbing the bathroom floor, the toilet, the sink, etc with disinfectant and bleach. I suppose that’s what a good parent does. It’s what a good dad does. They sacrifice for their children. And that’s exactly what Pete Alwinson says in his new book Like Father, Like Son: How Knowing God as Father Changes Men

 

The adventure of sacrificial fathering begins right at birth when the welcoming of a totally dependent, fragile newborn rocks the new mom and dad’s world. Sleep deprivation, unfamiliar noises, and never-ending messy new jobs conspire with inexperience to keep parents off-balance. (p. 106)

 

That was my night last night: sleep deprivation, unfamiliar noises, and never-ending messy new jobs. But that’s what a father does. He sacrifices. He cares.

 

But please don’t misunderstand me. I’m not trying to toot my horn here. I’m a sinner. I don’t think that I’m a “great dad.” I struggled to get up each time and help my son and then clean up all the mess. But I’m telling you this in order to show you that this is exactly what our heavenly Father does for us. We get sick with sin, we throw up everywhere, and He comes and cleans up the mess we have created with His grace. That’s what God is like. And that’s what Pete Alwinson’s new book is like. He keeps telling us what God the Father is like.

 

Now, a disclaimer must be noted here. I first heard of Pete about 6 or 7 years ago and I began listening to his sermons. Pete’s sermons are winsome, engaging, practical, and Gospel-centered. So when I began reading his new book, I had very high expectations. And he did not let me down. This book is typical Pete Alwinson (as much as you can know someone through their sermons!). And the last chapter, “The Grace-giving Father,” is typical Pete and worth the price of the entire book. And it will set you free! And isn’t that what you’re looking for in a good book?

 

Listen, I have grown tired of all the “manly father” books that give me a list of things to do. I’m tired of them because when I do the list, I get prideful. And when I don’t do the list? Depression. Sadness. Guilt. Shame. Like Father, Like Son is not one of those books. It’s a book that tells you the very simple secret to fatherhood: knowing God. That’s the key to being a godly, albeit sinful, father: knowing God the Father. That’s what this book is about. Pete describes the difference that knowing your heavenly Father makes:

 

Well, here’s the good news— you have a perfect heavenly Father! It makes all the difference in the world when you realize that God is your father, the most important father in your life. God the Father and God as Father is the truly irreplaceable Father. When we start relating to God as Father, it’s absolutely amazing how it transforms us and changes our lives for the better. That’s the bottom line thesis of this book. (p. 9)

 

As soon as I read that paragraph, I immediately thought of a something that A.W. Tozer said. So in the margin of my book, I wrote “Tozer.” Then a few pages later, Pete quoted Tozer’s very words: “What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.”

 

That’s why you need to read this book. That’s why you need to give this book to every man that you know- because what they think about God determines everything in their life. If they don’t know God the Father, they are missing out. It’s only as we know God the Father that we will ever be the men and fathers that He has created us to be. It’s when we find our identity in our relationship with our heavenly Father that we will begin to experience true freedom.

 

So what are you waiting for? It’s “Cyber Monday.” Go by this book! And get to know your heavenly Father- the One who sent His Son Jesus to live and die for us- the One who gave us His Spirit- the One who cleans you up after you stuff yourself with sin and make a mess of your life.

To learn more about Pete or to purchase his book:

http://stores.newgrowthpress.com/like-father-like-son-how-knowing-god-as-your-father-changes-men/

http://litfusegroup.com/author/palwinson

* I was given a complimentary copy of this book in exchange for writing this review.

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As a Breast Desires to Empty Itself…

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I’ve been on quite a few missions trips to West Africa and one thing that you cannot miss when you are there is the freedom that African women have to breastfeed in public. I remember once, after preaching in public to a large crowd, that a woman came forward and told me that she wanted to trust in Christ. As we were praying together, I heard her baby getting fussy, and I opened my eyes and she just pulled down her top and started nursing. That’s certainly something that I’ve never countered in the American church!

And it was after one of my trips to Africa in 1994 that I painted the painting above- “Mother’s Milk.” It was one of the main pieces at my senior art show in college, too. And it (and many other paintings of mine) were banned at the Christian college that I went to. I had to pull them down because they were too controversial. Life as an artist in the (Southern) church…

So I’ve painted a number of paintings through the years of women breastfeeding. It has been one of my motifs that I often return to. And it’s a motif that the Puritans picked up on as well. We tend to shy away from the imagery (probably because of our over-sexualized culture), but the Puritans knew that breastfeeding was beautiful a picture to show the love of God for sinners like us. Here’s how one of my favorite Puritan pastors, Richard Sibbes, describes the love of Jesus…

Doth he come empty? No; he comes with all grace. His goodness is a communicative, diffusive goodness. He comes to spread his treasures, to enrich the heart with all grace and strength, to bear all afflictions, to encounter all dangers, to bring peace of conscience, and joy in the Holy Ghost. He comes, indeed, to make our hearts, as it were, a heaven. Do but consider this. He comes not for his own ends; but to empty his goodness into our hearts. As a breast that desires to empty itself when it is full; so this fountain hath the fulness of a fountain, which strives to empty his goodness into our souls. He comes out of love to us. Let these considerations melt our hearts for our unkindness, that we suffer him to stand so long at the door knocking, as it is said here. Sibbes, R. (1862). The Complete Works of Richard Sibbes. (A. B. Grosart, Ed.) (Vol. 2, p. 67). Edinburgh; London; Dublin: James Nichol; James Nisbet And Co.; W. Robertson.

The good news of the Gospel is that Jesus doesn’t come to us empty. He comes with grace. And He doesn’t come to us for something that He can get out of it. He’s not self-centered in His giving. He doesn’t come to us for His own ends- He comes to empty His goodness into our hearts! And just like a breast that is full and ready to empty itself of its milk, so too Jesus is ready to fill us with His goodness. He is an overflowing fountain, dare I say, an overflowing breast, that desires to fill His hungry children with His milk.

Think about that today. It will melt your heart.

– Benji

Walking Sermons

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And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. Hebrews 10:24-25

Puritan Richard Sibbes said, “Godly friends are walking sermons.” I think that’s what the preacher of Hebrews is getting at. We all need encouragement. We all need to be stirred up to love and good works. And that’s why godly friends can be walking sermons- because the reality is that we’re all sick in some way. We’re all selfish and struggle with many sins, so we need encouragement and stirring. The church is, after all, a hospital. Richard Sibbes said that too-

“The Holy Ghost is content to dwell in smoky, offensive souls…The church of Christ is a common hospital, wherein all are in some measure sick of some spiritual disease or other…”

The Holy Spirit is pleased to dwell in sinners like us because that’s all that there are! We are all smoky, offensive souls when compared the glory of God, but that doesn’t stop God from dwelling inside us individually and corporately. We are a common hospital where at any moment we are all in some measure sick of some spiritual disease. And that’s why meeting together for mutual encouragement is so important. We need to be pointed to Jesus all the time. He alone is the cure for our sin-sick souls.

So look around. There are hurting people sitting in front of you at church. And behind you. And next to you. And there are hurting people filling up their coffee cups before and after the service. So be intentional anytime we gather as a church. Look for someone to encourage. And don’t be surprised if someone stirs you up too. Let’s be a church that places not just a high value on preached sermons, but also on “walking sermons.”

– Benji